Question: In the Checklist on Death and Dying you say, “Do not try to hold on to the dying person. It is fine to reminisce if the person chooses, but do not hold the person to this life, for example, with stories or family photos.” What about reading to them or giving them a massage?
Answer: It would be fine to read to the dying person if they would like this. Think about what has attracted the dying person beyond themselves into the Mystery of life. Are they attracted to Jesus or other religious figures? Is there religious literature that would serve them? If they have had a positive response to Adi Da Samraj, you might choose something from Easy Death or perhaps Adi Da’s book for children, which is really for everyone, called What, Where, When, How, Why and Who to Remember to be Happy. They may be receptive to simple relaxation exercises to practice letting go. Music might open their heart to the feeling of the Mystery.
Massaging the dying person would certainly be appropriate if they are comfortable with this. However, if the person is very close to dying, it is best not to massage their feet since that may draw their energy down to their feet. In the dying process, energy needs to ascend to the top of the head and the foot rub may interfere with this process.